stress

i feel very stressed lately, and shocked kimmo this weekend when i blew up at him over something completely stupid.  it just feels like i'm stretched very thin.  i'm trying very hard to be good at my job, plus a good mother to lumi, plus feed us all with good food, plus meet friends, plus keep up to date on reading.  i would also like to be a good wife, but i am definitely not being that.  i feel like i'm using a lot of energy trying to be patient and kind at work and with lumi and no patience is left over for kimmo.  so when he questions something i do or forgets something crucial, i just snap.  i don't know what to do.  i have looked at all the 'important' things and tried to find something to scale back on, but i'm not finding it.  i'm already not exercising how i would like to.  we have been watching downloaded tv shows (like downton abbey!) in the evenings and though that is significant time, it also feels like it's a way for kimmo and i to be together quietly without losing patience with each other.  maybe that's what has to go.