seriously, i have welts

i think i'm about ready to stop breastfeeding.  lumi loves it and i love it when she's gentle, but she isn't ever gentle anymore.  no biting, but she pulls (wtf?) and scratches, neither of which are pleasant.  she doesn't seem to do it maliciously; it's like a nervous habit to dig her nails into my skin.

but now we have to wean her, and don't really know how to do it with minimal trauma.